The AD Way: Maintain a Healthy Work-Life Balance
AD has thirty-four behavioral practices that we try to follow in our daily interactions with members, suppliers, and each other. Together, they make up something we call “The AD Way.” This week we are working on work-life balance. Here’s my message about it:
The AD Way #32: Maintain a Healthy Work-Life Balance
Some of us need to put more time and energy into doing our jobs to the best of our ability. Some of us need to spend more time making sure that things are ok back home.
It’s hard to find the right balance. Even when you do find it, it doesn’t typically stay found. Because the dynamics at work and home aren’t static. They’re fluid.
On occasion, work can be extremely challenging. Successful people don’t grumble when this happens. They roll up their sleeves, dig in and get the job done. At some point, each of our private lives will be challenging, too. Successful people don’t act oblivious or wallow in self-pity. They see the big picture, draw on inner strength and respond with help and compassion.
Needs change, at work and at home, depending on circumstances. This requires awareness. The proper response is not words, but action. It’s great to tell people that you care. But that pales in comparison to showing up. There’s a big difference between asking your child about their game and sitting in the stands.
So, what happens when they conflict? What do you do when the needs at work and the needs at home are both so pressing that you can’t possibly respond as you should to both situations? Do this: respond as you should at home.
There’s someone at the company who can fill in for you when you’re in a jam. But there’s only one you in your personal life. As good a conversationalist as I am, I sincerely doubt that your spouse will be happy going to dinner with me on your anniversary.
Most Type-A people sacrifice too much at home. They figure that the people who love them will understand. And that works fine, until it doesn’t. Everybody has a breaking point. Don’t let the people you love reach theirs. Nobody functions like an A-Player when the world around them is collapsing.
Performing at a high level takes stamina and good health. A decent diet and regular exercise provide positive energy and mental acuity. Take the time that you need to recharge and refresh. This is your personal responsibility. And be sure to unplug regularly. When you’re working, work. When you’re with your family or people outside of work, be with them.
Work can be a fulfilling and enjoyable part of life, if you do it right. So, do it well and do it right.